When Love Takes You In.

V and the Beach

It happens most days – there’s a soundtrack echoing in my heart that lingers on as the sun finds its way past shadows and then hides in them again. This day the song is penned by Steven Curtis Chapman. It’s an old one.

When love takes you home and says you belong here

The loneliness ends and a new life begins

When love takes you in.


This week, my best friends Courtney and Ryan welcomed a 16-year old girl into their home to be a family forever. And this week, my precious friend Eli celebrated his 11th birthday – as we all celebrate eight years of him as a Holt, which just might be one of the best last names ever if you consider the mom and dad who gave it to him.

Eli and his family

I think about both families. I remember when Eli’s parents Alisha and David thought about starting a family, but it didn’t work out as planned. I remember when Courtney and Ryan were content to be everyone’s “auntie and uncle,” rather than have kids of their own. I watched things change and shift and move in both couples – walked alongside them as they questioned and doubted and grew hopeful and had those hopes shattered. And I remember the day Alisha and David wrote from Argentina where they are missionaries to say they had met their son in the Ukraine. He carried a stick to keep strangers away. It took a while, but he laid that stick down and found his place in their arms. With Courtney and Ryan, it was a picture of a sweet young woman’s face that turned their world upside down. And it was building castles together in the sand that sealed her place in their lives. Guest rooms have been made family rooms, and the wishing it could be different has been replaced by wouldn’t have it any other way.

And this love will never let you go
There is nothing that could ever
cause this love to lose its hold.


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This week, another friend of mine waits by her mother’s side as life becomes more and more silent. It wasn’t long ago at all that her mom was visiting from Florida, and we all laughed by the pool and drank wine and swapped stories. Now, the rhythmic sound of the oxygen machine tells its own story of quiet waiting. I remember that waiting 13 years ago, remember holding the hand of the woman who had held mine for so many years. I remember the guest room made family room, the wishing it could be different and the not having it any other way.

Perhaps it’s strange to think about life and death in the same moment. To hear a song and have such opposing storylines playing out in my head. But yet, I see a thread – a precious delicate thread of relentless love. It’s the opening of the door, the taking in, the saying “I’m not going anywhere,” the holding and not.letting.go. It’s the courageous place where hurt and hope look at fear and whisper with trembling voice “perfect love has this – be gone.”

Whatever the pain, perfect love has this. Whatever the fear, perfect love has this. Whatever the weakness, perfect love has this. In life and in death, perfect love has this.

And like the rain that falls into the sea
In a moment what has been is lost in what will be

What areas of your life do you need to hear “perfect love has this – be gone” whispered? For me, it’s about some heartfelt dreams of mine – and it’s about knowing those I love will be cared for well. Fear grabs hard. But this I know – “perfect love casts out fear.” 

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About Ronne Rock

LIFE. LOVE. LEADERSHIP. AND A LITTLE #KITCHENTHERAPY. Ronne Rock’s heart finds its strongest beat where beauty and pain collide – because hope always finds us in the shattered places. There’s more than 30 years of marketing and communications experience in her bones, and she finds great joy in sharing leadership wisdom as a regular contributor to Orange Leaders and QARA. But more often than not these days, she's with the vulnerable in difficult places around the world, gathering stories that change stories. Find Ronne's words in "For You, Love" the prayer journal that invites you to respond, and in Everbloom, a collection of stories from the Redbud Writers Guild. She is currently writing, "Building Eden: Principles of a Grace-Filled Leadership that Restores and Redeems."   Ronne is represented by Karen Neumair at Credo Communications.

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6 thoughts on “When Love Takes You In.”

  1. Dave just read this and we got to remembering when Eli was littler. When we were pursuing the adoption of Maria in an orphanage here in Argentina, he told us we had to hurry because orphanages are sad and lonely. He has also said the same thing about himself while looking at the adoption scrapbook of the photo of himself on the first day we met him. Adoption is definitely a God thing!

  2. Do you have any stories of people adopting their sibling’s child? My sister is considering adoption for the one in her womb and I can’t fight this yearning to keep him/her in our family. My husband and I have been married a year and nine months and don’t have kids yet. We had just started having regular discussions about when was the right time to start our family when some difficult scenarios unfolded in my family and my sister mentioned adoption. I can’t shake off this idea to adopt the baby, and my husband and I have decided to pray and think and talk to our pastors. I don’t know what to do, but my heart just wonders and prays.

    1. Amber, first of all, I’m praying with you and your husband right now – that the Lord will unite your hearts and bring clarity as you walk this road. Now, for those stories. None are on this blog, but I can connect you with people who have beautiful stories…I’ll send information to you via email.

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